Children at this age can not process scientific or intellectual explanations, because their brains are not developed to digest them yet.
So if we talk to children on an intellectual level too early, when their brain is not ready yet, the world appears complicated and difficult to them. Intellectual explanations such as, “The sky is blue because as sunlight of all colors passes through air, the blue part causes charged particles to oscillate faster than does the red part…” may be scientifically accurate – even though if you are not a scientist you probably would not have such a complex explanation ready– but we so often give our children intellectual answers that are way too complicated and don’t really make sense to them. The simple answer of, “I wonder,” is perfectly acceptable, as is a simple imaginative response like, “So the golden sun can shine through.”
So we do not need to explain to them how the world around them works, how to use their stuffies, how to rattle their rattles, how to put sand in the bucket … or teach them skills like standing up, walking, speaking, etc.
How often do we take a baby’s hands when he tries to stand up by himself, trying to help him – with the best of intentions – to walk?
Children simply need plenty of opportunities, time, and a safe environment to discover for themselves how everything works.
Children learn and master those developmental skills NOT through our well meant interference & explanations. They learn them through observing, imitating, and practicing, practicing, practicing.
Only through finding out for themselves does the growing child develop:
- inner focus
- persistence and
- a deep understanding of themselves and things around them